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Just When You Think You Know a Kid

The Beginning of a Journey I Never Imagined

Teresa Kuhl
2 min readSep 11, 2020


I became a grandma when I was still quite young- only 35! So I was incredibly relieved knowing how cool I was. For a long time, I was pretty sure I was pulling it off.

Soon, I had three grandchildren and I couldn’t be more proud of them. They loved to stay at Grandma’s house. They loved to go to church with me. They loved everything about me and that was definitely a mutual thing.

The years went by and the oldest grand was about 13. There was a problem. Seems the kid was “outed” in Science class by another kid and now everyone knew this girl liked girls. I don’t really think everyone knew, but I sure knew that’s how it felt at the time for my grandchild.

My heart was broken. My much loved first-born grand was gay.

What the hell?

How could anyone even know that at such a young age?

Was it just some fad or a phase?

Maybe it would all just blow over. I took my very righteous self straight to church and did my best to pray that away. Guess what? It didn’t work.

I knew I had a big problem. I belonged to the Christian faith that said this kind of thing was nothing but bad. But my precious young grandchild was nothing but good. This kid had a piece of my heart so big there was no way I could ever do anything to bring pain into their world.

I found myself far more worried about the pain of that poor child being outed than anything else. How horrific that must have been. I can’t even imagine how much that kid wanted the earth to just open wide so they could fall in. My heart ached for that heartache.

I cried for days as I struggled to understand, to accept. But I did my very best to keep that struggle at home.

I knew my life was about to take a dramatic turn. Outwardly, nothing really changed. But my mind ran 24 hours a day.

Could I do this?

Could I support this lifestyle my beliefs condemned?

The journey was going to be a wild ride.

But I had no choice but to take it.

If you want to learn a little about who I am, you can do that here:

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Thanks for reading!



Teresa Kuhl

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